The General Gender Based Behavioral Expectation Aberration…..Aberration

First, I can’t do it.  I cannot keep posting poetry….at least not back to back. A little part of me will die each consecutive post of prose so lets put that shit on hold to let my dignity recover.  13-31 will continue later….maybe.

There are so many things in this world that we “know” but don’t believe.  Weather we have to see it for our own eyes, protect our ego or through pure stubbornness there are things that we will not allow to be computed and absorbed by both the conscious and unconscious brain.

I am not alluding to any specific answer yet just merely curious what the average person would assume when faced with statements about unruly behavior when delivered with gender neutral words.

Some examples:

This person was totally groping my friend on the dance floor.

My friend goes out just to get laid.

I can’t believe that freak asked us for a threesome.

Did you hear that Sam cheated on Terry again?

Jamie was just seeing Avery because they were a good lay.

My friend was a drunken mess and like trashed the bathroom the other night.

Now, we know, “know” that these could easily go either way right?  Yet, I believe there’s a stigma that over flows from our collective history and from the present male dominated societies on to more civilized societies.  (That’s right I said more civilized. Get over it.)   Sure, I know we will accept the chance that the perpetrator in the above situations may have been female but I argue that we would not dare assume or guess it was a female.    So I ask that when it comes to such sleaziness everyone look back hard on their experiences and on what they have seen and heard.  Are those instances where the girl goes ape shit on the pub bouncer, takes two dudes home and has an impromptu rodeo while the hubby is away on business an aberration?  Is it usually guys that do all that stuff?

What’s the gender probability of cheating and infidelity? Flip a damn coin.  Tell you what, repercussions are almost the same.  But there is this underlining, even if it’s in pencil, idea of empowerment and entitlement.  The man loses on both sides.  He is a filthy cheater or is lacking in some way justifying the woman’s behavior.  Is that too far?  How often do you hear men come of with some excuse that lays blame on the other person? Sure, that’s debatable, but we generally blame our penis women don’t blame their libido.  From my experience women will admit that they cheated publically quicker than men. That could be for whatever reason but I just found that always strange considering the idea (possibly another false preconception) that women are more secretive about such things.

It is assumed that men have this shameless bravado about cheating yet when it comes down to it I have known more women cheaters then men and not one gender shows anymore bravado or shame than the other.  Ask yourself, who always brings up that question?  I can’t have a fair answer, never been on a date with a dude but can say I never had a dude ask me if I have cheated but have had a score of women asked me, refuse to believe my answer and then admit that they themselves had cheated in the past.  Now any man who had cheated before and brings up such things in conversation is a damn fool.  This all bring me to believe the scarlet letter is more like a subtle pink now a days.

Sexual Assault.  Yes I know, it’s for men to laugh off because there usually not much of a threat and we don’t necessarily feel violated, YET the tendency of inappropriate behavior do to sexual tension I would like to argue is also the same between the genders.

A man doing such things is a degenerate and is doing far more damage than the drunken chick doing what would be comparatively foreplay. This is understood.  Yet, as a man, I can say that we always can get away but I believe there have been situations where it would not have been able decline and remain unscathed.  Also, if one is groped you cannot leave the situation without looking bad especially if it’s a date and the woman is inebriated.  The safety of woman who presently has both hands on your junk in the middle of the bar is still somewhat your responsibility.  As a man you can’t complain about this type of shit, you have to have a sense of humor, YET, as far as perfect strangers grabbing, pinching, prodding, groping I have literally lost count. I’ve been violated by all ages, colors and creeds from parking lots to dance floors. Sometimes I may have been asking for it (actually no, but for argument sake) and sometimes I was just trying to leave work and go home.  You women, from my experience do this crap all the time.  I had started to feel as if I was being punished for a past life as a street pimp.  With that said I find it interesting it’s so nonchalant it’s damn near invisible to society.

All in all it’s kind of funny.  I could just pull their hands out and away and inform them that I wasn’t a male stripper than sit there with a stupid look on my face.  Yet, what is guy to do, berate the lady, make a seen at the bar because a few girls keep sneaking strokes on the sly.  I am just saying if women were the same size as men I would be carrying mace.

The cell phones too.  Remember the whole gag when camera phones came out and you always knew one asshole who would try to take shots under people skirts.  Women again have to bring this too to another level.  If there is a naked man and a cell phone in a ten foot radius there will be pictures taken.  Some try to be a little sneaky but most are completely shameless.  Like its no problem, perhaps we are to offer a few different angles.  Could you imagine what would happen with a new girl if you pick up your cell phone and started shooting away?

Such hypocrisy does not end there.  The questions ladies ask…all the same ones with out fail.  In fairness they are going come up eventually but they ask such things as if they are questions are just for men.   Have you cheated on anyone?  “No” “No? Really? I don’t believe you?”  Now, I am starting to think that this chick is already starting to build justifications to fuck me over.  Not really, we men are too stupid to be that judgmental. If we get to that question we know she is actually showing interest and she could confess to a gang band with a car of circus clown and most of us wouldn’t be phased.

“Are you player?”  I have had to reply, “Um, no and my name is …….. by the way.”  I could not imagine going up to some girl and asking if they were a slut or “Excuse me, would you say you were sexually promiscuous and or have slight tendencies towards deception?”

Now trade secret, men openly don’t know who is who with women.  We cannot tell the freaks from the prudes, pill poppers, lesbians or mentally unstable by merely looking at them or talking to them for a short time. Hell some of us have trouble telling if it’s a girl or boy.  We’re like fucking rhinoceroses. Can’t see shit but when we catch the right scent we charge.  We like to share our cockamamie (yes! I used cockamamie) theories and share our ignorance.  But women, ya’all got us down don’t cha?

There is so much shit women say that show they don’t believe that they are just as filthy as we men.  I could argue that they are worse, but I won’t.  I have known girls who have always gotten screwed over and I know men who have always gotten screwed over and you’ll never know by looking at them which is which.  People are people are people, random as fuck but still the same.