The Big Bang

There is a state of bachelordom which can be found confusing to observers and sometimes frustrating to women.    A life of content and passive cruise control.   As much as women like to be chased down, they are also intrigued by the ones who play hard to get.  Those who do not show an overabundance of interest can quickly make a women feel insecure and bring out their aggressive side.

Many women greatly value the position of fag hag, nothing like a women trapped in a man for the company of a not threatening male.    These two are at worst a gal pal or a challenge.   Of course there are the married or committed, but then there are the single men who are not even playing coy they have a genuine aura of indifference.

They don’t care.  They will ignore  or even mock models in their face.  Unlike a man in pursuit they will not entertain a conversation they are not interested in.  All the little games, no longer work.  If  you play the “hit and run butterfly routine,” where you give him a taste and go around the crowd leaving him wanting, he may find the buffet a suitable replacement. If he’s a looker he will be more likely engrossed for the moment with a few other women who picked up what you dropped.  He may full out disappear.

The girl who plays the wise ass tough girl might end up on the receiving end of a few good zingers.  The soap box intellectual might just find herself a vocal opposition.   Women greatly overlook the amount of behavioral miscues men ignore, or put up with in a social environment.    I am not saying women don’t at times do like ways nor am I talking about people just being rude.  I am speaking in specific about the cute off the cuff remakes that are typical when a woman is feeling desirable.  A man in this mode does not suffer any non-sense unless he is the root of it.

Sure when a gals gay friend comes out with something, it’s a laugh riot but when a straight man whom they find attractive gives a verbal love tap, it can be a solid haymaker blow to the woman’s ego.

Why does this happen?   Because these men just don’t care.  Perhaps they are those wealthy and powerful villains with hoards of gold diggers to choose from.  Maybe there are just very bad men.  Or, maybe they are in a place in their lives where they just don’t care.

Women will openly complement these men, flirt when they aren’t flirters, get aggressive when they are usually far from it.   They just don’t understand.   How…don’t they need us? Doesn’t he want this? Maybe a priest?  Gay?  Maybe he is terminally ill and has only a year to live and doesn’t want to put a woman through that because he is so brave and sensitive? Maybe he lost his penis in the war?

Or they just don’t care. Why?  Because just like the hub bub about secure women who “don’t need a man,” these gentlemen, are secure, happy, and confident.  They have had vagina before and don’t feel it’s worth risking that happiness, security and confidence over it.   They can range from career players to guys that have been beaten down enough and can’t trust their judgment in women.    Maybe two alimony payments are enough or he finds that paying for sex is much cheaper in so many ways.

So what can you do with a man who just doesn’t care?  Get him drunk, come on hard.  You may get laid but probably not much more.  This is why these men are frustrating to women, because it is out of their hands.   You can only hope to be the “Big Bang.”

They are still men, they are still human. They can shelve their libido, play it cool, and walk away from easy va jay jay, but there are exceptions.   The right type of prey they have been passively looking for and the Cheshire cat grin spreads across ones face.

They can feel their cool falter for a second, their eyes dilate, and they give you a very curious look in the eyes.   These are seasoned veterans, the reason why they seem not to care is because they know what they want.  You may remind them of an old sweetheart, a high school crush or you measure up well against the composite ideal woman they have constructed in their head.  As in nearly anything else, their history is the major factor in deciding their romantic relationships at this point in their lives.

They say a woman knows if they will sleep with a man or not in what, five minutes?   These men know within four seconds.  Yeah, they may sleep with you, but the difference is that those who set off that explosion behind his eyes, they really, really want to sleep with and Deary you have no control over it.

Suddenly they are playful, forward, most of all interested and you are making the other women puke.

Now don’t you have a curious thing on your hands?