Methadone Girls

What are Methadone Girls?  It’s actually a method that both genders practice quite often after the end of a romantic relationship. I will be writing this from a man’s point of view, but I believe the behavior is the same no matter the gender. “Boo hoo” you’re broken hearted, lonely and in major need of distraction what does one do?

When your object of affection is suddenly no longer available it seems logical enough to put yourself in the vicinity of other women just to be around them. The more differences there are between the Methadone girl and the one you’re trying to forget, the better. You try to drill into your head that there are other women. Better looking girls, classier girls, girls who will let you do that thing.

Even minor attention from other women is, although short lasting, but never the less a numbing salve,  The idea of being found desirable does wonders to a wounded heart.  The effect doesn’t last long, for when you still climb into your bed alone, you know who you’re going to end up thinking about.  It’s a small trick to gain a few hours of peace, unless you continue to self medicate yourself every night or become, you know it, on the Rebound.

Technically you already are on the rebound, but when you’re innocently searching out Methadone Girls, you can quickly become A rebound.  It’s as easy as someone approaching “Hey my name is…” then all of the sudden that person becomes an angel from heaven.  The few things you have in common are the only things apparent and are way blown out of proportion.  Rebounding is a silent disease for few wish to admit that they are hurt and no one wants to admit that they perhaps are looking to use another to make themselves feel better.  Self Delusion= Self Medication

How to spot one on the rebound?  Pensiveness, of course the mentioning of the ex and the bitter sweet or nonchalant attitude your targets friends are giving you.  As if they are thinking, “Well it’s good for her, but it’s going to suck for him.”
This is where rebounding could become contagious.  If not careful, one can end up snagging a rebound and falling for her.  Why not?  She’s appreciative, and adores you, and so quickly.  Yet, she then gets enough to get over the other guy, or the other guy comes crawling back, then tad-ah!, you’re on the rebound now.  Seen it happen you know you have too.

All in all, the search for Methadone girls is harmless.  It’s a distraction. For a small amount of time you’re like everybody else.  Of course, amongst them are plenty of others doing the same thing at several levels so you may be more alike than you know.
Sometimes, one will go on a womanizing tear until they feel that they have done enough to get their manhood back.  Sometimes one will meet someone else, be in actual reality and not only in their head, miraculously healed and pursue a new relationship.  Or, it barely works and leads to other problems.

I was once on the search for methadone girls.  But lo and behold, night after night, I couldn’t even get myself to talk to any.  Though as I said just being around them can do the trick, but it wasn’t for me.  The sad fact for me is that the only Methadone girl I could find, was indeed, the Heroin I was trying to get over.  I wasn’t going to get me anywhere, but it made me feel better for short moments of time.  Just because the Meth ho’s do not work, does  not mean one should continue to put the lost woman on a pedestal, it’s just too early and/or your just finding out your new contempt for the other gender of which may linger a while.

Sometimes you can subconsciously be getting off at feeling miserable, makes you feel a little alive in some way, less bored with life because you are consumed in its bullshit. One must be wary to not get comfortable being a miserable bastard.  It happens, you see people miserable for miserable sake and they just don’t seem to want to let the misery go even though it seems the woman is forgotten.

So what else can one do to fill the gap when other women just aren’t doing the job?  Some delve into their work.  Some perhaps just boldly take it day by day with the help from friends and random ritualistic mourning.  Others choose to punish themselves with self destructive behavior, although it won’t seem like that in the moment.  For example, after things going badly I would go to the bar once a week by myself just to watch people or to scribble notes on napkins.
When hurting, the Methadone Girl Method was just natural for me.  But I found myself at the bar a little too often by myself, paying less and less attention to the Girls, and people in general.  I went from casual smoker to chain smoker.  Watching the people long enough it becomes clear that expecting strangers to lick your wounds for you is madness and you’re just there drinking.
I have no problem admitting when I’m a being a little bitch.  When you’re hurting, it’s a healthy step I believe, to admit it.  But there comes the time where you have to stop all the distractions because you may find that you have begun not only to distract you from the one you lost, but from the things that make you who you are.  The things that even got that person to pay attention to you in the first place.
It’s time to man up and quit being a bitch.  No matter how bad you had been screwed or damaged because a lot of this distracting and healing behavior is like a cure for cancer that destroys ones liver.  What’s the point?  Deal with the cancer.
Fortunately for me, I looked up from the candle one the bar that I tended to lose myself in, got disgusted at myself, finished the one beer, had one cigarette and walked the hell out of there. Where does that bring us but to the old and so very, very, annoying cliché, I’m not sure how it is exactly phrased, but it kind of goes like this, “You can’t expect others to love you, if you don’t first love yourself.”
So in closing, do what you have to do to soften the initial blow.  But be aware and truthful to yourself to what you are doing and don’t hurt more than you have to. If you catch yourself looking for methadone, try to do it responsibly.  This is a good time to worship yourself, not with outward bravado but within. Kisses Boo Boo.