Fear

There are three fears that are healthy for a bachelor to embrace.  The fear of God. The fear of disease, and the fear of pregnancy.
The first is a basic for everyone.  It is good to have respect for something greater, otherwise delusions may overtake ones character and leave them open to the follies of fate and reality more than the average Joe.   It’s also a basis for the other two.
One is not immortal, the best you can do is try to not set your self up for things that will either weaken you or stigmatize you.  The girl that was “so easy”. Well riddle me this studly, how many others was she “so easy” for?
The third could be challenged.  There are many who think they are something else in the animal kingdom.  That it’s purely natural to spread their seed as far and wide as possible and leave it to the female to raise their offspring.
Is that our instinct?  It’s not for everyone.  I’ve seen more men instinctually quite paternal.  It’s those of weak character and mind that seem to hold the later as natural.  Perhaps that is because their genes are weak and nature desires their offspring to die off.  Yet still, taken modern law, financially, a pregnancy is something to fear.
Commitment.  “blah blah has such a fear of commitment,”  Had it ever occurred to a girl that a fear of commitment might mean he takes such a thing very seriously?  Women in general seem to take it a little more nonchalantly. (And this is when some one replies that they are not nonchalant about but more emotionally mature) Yet, like shoes, when they choose, they choose.  Perhaps that’s why it’s traditional for men to ask women to marry.
Women, seem to get more emotional, but they burn off emotion much faster, they seem to take emotional crap much easier than men do.  Women get hurt, guys get crushed.   I’ve seen ladies break down over all sorts of bullshit but I have rarely seen them as bad as I have seen guys get.  It could be because I am a guy and can relate to my fellow man more and see through them easier, or that women merely have greater emotional fortitude.
To put it into perspective, men seem better short distance runners when it comes to handling emotional stuff, women are better in the long distance.  We don’t want to be in touch with our feelings.  They are testosterone feelings.  We don’t “feel” things, we “FEEL” things.  It’s very draining to do so.   Women get upset, men loose it.  We hit things, we start crying and tell everyone how we love them, we get all blithery and weird, it’s disgusting.  Don’t make us do that.
Think.  Stalker X-boy friend’s are much more common than their counterpart.  Hell, a woman stalker is one of the scariest things on Gods earth.
Guys’ being the ones to initiate the break up or divorce seems like a petty crime compared to the atrocity of a woman breaking it off.   The guy being the guy has to pretend that it’s nothing of major consequence, but anyone looking at that poor son of a bitch can tell, that he’s ball-less and in the unmanliness despicable condition.
The fear of becoming the ball-less wretch is only the secret reason men fear commitment.  The more common and well known is that, if given the chance to have multiple women with out getting shit for it, most men would.   If they deny, they lie.  Lie, lie, lie.  Perhaps one would over rule and he would ditch the rest, but in a lot of cultures around the world multiple wives are common.  It doesn’t mean they’re happier, but it’s just the way it is.
There shouldn’t be a fear of the guy who fears commitment.  You just have to figure out what the situation is.
He could enjoy spending time with you, but could also be enjoying time with others and doesn’t want to pick quite yet.
He could be only seeing you, but not quite sure what he’s doing with you for he sees within the minds eye the possibility of one better suiting to him coming to pass and him missing the opportunity in the means of doing the right thing and being faithful.
He could be a veteran.  Women tend to change a little when they have their talons firmly secured into the flesh of a man.  Before a girl gets a guy they are so much sweeter and willing to please.  Sure, one could say the same about men, but a woman in pursuit is something to behold.  Why ditch all that sweetness, horniness, and willing to pay half the check to have to fall into the role of ass kisser?  Note: There are many, many cases where this goes vise versa.  It’s usually called the asshole syndrome. (Girls who can’t help but to date smelly assholes, but the difference is they usually show signs of being an asshole before hand)
He also could be plainly damaged goods. “Why can’t I just find a nice guy” I love hearing that shit.  Here’s a hint.  Between the ages of 18 and 25 your gender took all those guys and grinded them to bloody pieces.  So if you’re over 25 and looking for a nice guy, you’re shit out of luck.  Your gender destroyed them all and most likely you did your share.  There are none left and if there were you probably wouldn’t want them.  Perhaps that’s why older men date much younger women. REVENGE!  Christ, I’m one of the nicest guys I know and after reading some of this stuff you know that I ain’t too nice.
When a man gets worked a few times, they’re ready to throw in the towel.  As mentioned before, emotional fortitude.  They want to be damned sure you’re not going to fuck with their ache breaky heart.  The funny thing is when a guy keeps his heart open to possibilities it always seems that some other freaking bitch nabs him first as if they smelled the blood.
The more willing a man is to commit, the more they may be willing to break that commitment.  So if you know the guy isn’t seeing anyone else, give him some air, rock his world and he will come around.  When he does come around your going to get a higher quality of commitment than the guy you wrangle to the ground with complaining, hints and ultimatums.  But if you stop rocking that world too soon he’ll be off to the races going, “I knew it!”
See, men and women have a much different idea of the principle of catch and release.   A guy will catch it, and most likely release it back into the pond immediately.  Sometimes they will keep it in a bucket for an hour or two to have a chance to show their friends.  Women, will cut the head off, scale it, cook it, eat half, than decide she doesn’t like it.
So men, don’t let yourself get pressured into anything.  If it’s really there, you will want to jump.  You will want to recite poetry, sit through some shit movie because she likes it.  You will want to plan adventures, and become a more prized accessory than her 500 dollar purse.
Women, unless your sure you really, really want him, leave it be.  Even if you are positive that your claws have his name on them, give him the time to figure it out on his own and enjoy the guiltless sex.
Oh yeah, speaking of which, BAG IT! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD WEAR A RUBBER!